8.17.2020 7:02 PM
Today is Monday, and it was the epitome of Mondays. I woke up early, practiced as much as I could of my new Ayurveda-inspired morning routine and prepared for my day. I knew work was going to be tough as I went into it. One of my employees called out sick, another is on the verge of being fired.
But here I am, 7:02 PM starting a complaint detox. Basically, not complaining at all costs. When I would normally complain about how tired I am on a Monday, instead I focused on how delicious my coffee tasted. My low tire pressure light went off this morning, I took a deep breath and reminded myself how lucky I am to have a nice car that runs well and just needs a little air in the tire.
I haven’t had the easiest go at life, but honestly – who has? We are all grieving the loss of someone, something, a sense of normalcy. We have all had a “worst day of our life”. We all get annoyed and upset and angry and feel like the world is out to get us.
But what is complaining going to do?
Nothing good, usually.
Of course, people vent from time to time when they have to. I also don’t think that dismissing others while they’re venting is particularly helpful. But if you are constantly surrounding yourself with people who always have something to complain about, you too will find something to complain about.
A simple “I hear you” and then transition to a lighter more positive topic will work magic
Similarly, I believe that if you surround yourself with people that find the good in hard times, you will too find things to be happy about, and see no reason to complain.
Though unnatural I’ll sound from time to time, I think that by reframing my thoughts away from energy-draining complaints, I will live a more fulfilling life.
Focusing on the negative weighs heavily on me. If things are that bad that I need to use my energy to complain, imagine what I could do if I channeled that energy into making a change?
I believe that at my core, I am a good person. I believe that I have the power to change the world, but unless I focus on cleansing myself of the negativity in my life, I’m not going to change much of anything. That’s not who I am, and that’s not what the wonderful women in my life raised me to be.
I am powerful.
I am strong.
I am capable.
I am enough.
I can do hard things.
I am worthy.
I am kind, to myself and to others.